Some Traits of Narcissistic Behaviour

On Narcissistic Behaviour, and this stands overall but I’m also pointing this towards the so called conscious community, that includes the ‘witch’ community.

It takes either experience or a certain level of self awareness to pinpoint and see a narcissist.
They’re slippery, but noting their conversations and their behaviour is a strong tell sign and you don’t have to look hard for it, just sit back and observe with how you feel in your body and how others respond to them. Observing this online as well.

 

Here’s a few to consider and to view their insecurity off and online:

• With conversation, they talk at you unless you’re feeding them information that can benefit them in some way.

• They’re always right and will shame the person in some way so the person contracts and they’re in control and they rage easily if you disagree with them.

•Watch how people respond to them. It’s usually licking their arse and putting them on a pedestal but also has a fear of answering them in the wrong way because ever so, or not so subtly will shame the person so the narc and can stay elevated.
To toxic people this is a behaviour they will ignore because they are also receiving an exchange of supply with them. Gaslighted folks will make them feel insecure and anxious which exactly what the narc wants to stay elevated and in control.
Remember that a narc needs supply to feed their false sense of importance. You’re their for them and their insecurities.

•Notice how they always talk the same bullshit. It’s not with a genuine openness that holds care and feeling, it’s just one to boost themselves. It’s repetitive using over exaggerated titles to boost their ego.
Because they’re really insecure some mistake that insecurity as vulnerability but mixed with their behaviour you will see the two is deeply manipulative and one with fuck all empathy.

•They play victim, A LOT to manipulate and to control and usually when they’ve been caught out. This is a way to draw people in to get the supply they need to feel boosted so they don’t need to take responsibility. They’re above that remember.

•They truly believe they are more than they think they are and they try and use shaming tactics to belittle a person they can’t or want to control because this is one of their biggest fears so it’s a projection.
This also shows their weakness and how easy it is to take power away but also see how insecure and childish they are.
Really important to note that narcissists are codependent forever needing ‘connection’ because they need supply.

•With online, watch how they do and don’t converse with others. The selfies, the small accomplishments they need people to tell them how fucking great they are, and let’s not forget asking for help or advice on the smallest things they can do themselves. This feeds their false sense of importance and is a way to pull people in and manipulate, like its an honour to help them.

•They believe they are more than what they actually are. You can also see the hypocrisy and their usual group of flying monkeys that are just as toxic, though some maybe so gaslighted they can’t see out of their arse.
Note the hypocrisy and self importance around issues they actually don’t hold much knowledge on, and remember they take from others and will make out they were the first to ever use it adding to this false sense of importance and a false image.
Anything to keep themselves elevated.

•They lie a fuck load not only to never take responsibility but because the truth of who they really are, their lack of being ‘gifted’ is offensive to them and why is it the world cannot see how special they are.

•Being held accountable for their shitty behaviour makes them rage full and offended. This is when they will use smearing campaigns to belittle the person that sees through their bullshit, to some this is a concern but it really is power to the person but you need to stand back and see it for what it is. An adult child throwing a tantrum and how easy it is to uncover their true self which they do for you through their projections, childish behaviour and hypocrisy, and that gives you power to point out the obvious and share it with the world.

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Hoodoo and Woowoo

When you’ve been practising witchcraft for many years you absolutely expect experience and an absolute know how and should absolutely have a defined craft.
Raw yes, but not child like, inexperienced work and you certainly don’t dump it on social media for the world to see unless it’s a past working.
When you have a natural knowing and respect for the craft including maturity, and age has fuck all to do with it, you get it and you understand the importance of building energy, of keeping your craft quiet to let it ‘soak’ and ‘build’ in the dark…but that’s when you can sniff out inexperience, immaturity, and narcissism- the usual and constant attention seeking. You can pass it up when you see much younger practitioners but as you get older from 25 onwards and it’s still being done, and then the ongoing online arse licking session within the same toxicity, then you have to stop and ask yourself, what the hell is going on here?  Racism, toxicity and narcissism in so called conscious communities.

When emotion is struck hard because let’s say narc Karen is upset because she had to fake an apology for being racist, you can clearly see the build up of toxicity that ultimately leads to bullshit immature craft and when someone is much much older, you expect maturity. You expect experience, you expect the childish antics and attention seeking to stop, but not if they’re emotionally unbalanced.
The show pony and loneliness stands out a mile away and so does the lack of experience and neediness. The insincerity and constant pedestalling and the gathering of toxic behaviour is not witch, shaman, healer, or reader.

There’s healthy rage, fuck yes for sure, but not a healthy rage if you’re being pulled up on a humanitarian issue and you behave like a spoilt child because your unstable belief that you can do anything is challenged and your white privilege can’t stand it so you gather your flying monkeys to do your dirty work.
It’s a shame for the narc, because they’re not very bright when their flying monkeys add the name of their narcissist in their messages which is all too easy to be screen shot and shared to show the sequence and behaviour of the narc and their flying monkeys to the world, and the true colours of the narc is revealed. It’s almost as bad as Karen’s hoodoo.

To answer this question that I’ve been asked so many times over, when it comes to toxicity and narcissism the pretend witchery doesn’t work. There needs to be knowing, clarity and presence within the emotional and mental body to connect clearly with the spirit in your workings, committed to consistent growth so it definitely adds another element of entertainment and stupidity.

This behaviour is rife in the so called spiritual communities, and it’s boring. When you mix pretend power which is just but hurt feelings and rage with toxicity and white privilege which is just another layer of toxic shit, ya get fuckery. It’s just a group of angry white women trying to dominate what they can’t and what they don’t have- power.

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Traits of a Spiritual Narcissist- (pt 1)

I’ve been reading and healing people for a long time. I started reading when I was 16. I was born with the natural gift of sight and mediumship ability and I love what I do. My healing abilities ‘woke’ when I was 25 and I began body sessions offering my services to begin with for no exchange. So a long while. I’m 44 this year and I’ve seen it all in so called spiritual communities and I’m sick and tired of it. Actually that’s an understatement.
From toxic narcissistic practitioners to clients that are just the same. This will never stop, because toxic clients that are stuck in their patterns and will always be seeking attention only to avoid their issues, and toxic and narcissistic practitioners will always be in any spiritual community because it’s a strong supply of attention and pedestaling they need to survive. First I want to say, not all toxic people are narcissists but all narcissists are toxic.
So I’m going to begin with what toxic and narcissistic behaviours to look for in practitioners, then also what practitioners should watch out for in clients.
There is a big difference with a person wanting to acknowledge and heal toxic behaviours and this absolutely can be done, but a toxic person that either isn’t ready to, or just doesn’t want to which can edge on narcissistic traits. We all know narcissism cannot be healed. This will be a two part blog loves, there’s a bit I want to share.

Let’s start with narcissism in practitioners, healers, readers, ‘spiritual leadership’ also transformational workers, tantric workers, witches, shamans, new age whatevers, and of course counsellors, art therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists..it just goes on and on. It’s anywhere and everywhere.

There are different types of narcissists and I’ll cover the main ones I have witnessed in spiritual communities. Please know, some of these can overlap. This is just a bit of helpful knowledge for you, and one to observe to keep yourself safe. It’s a deep concern of mine as someone that heals. This does not help heal the earth which is all of us, and I encourage for you to keep growing your self awareness and be committed to your healing practice so you don’t find yourself in this position over and over again.

Traits of a narcissist 

This describes the classic narcissist, and these traits are included in the covert and the inverted narcissist which I will mention.
Let’s not forget the malignant narcissist which can be well hidden within spiritual communities too.

Classic narcissists are attention seekers who love to brag about their accomplishments and absolute expect others to flatter and compliment them. How often I’ve witnessed this behaviour in spiritual communities is outstanding.
Can be from the smallest thing of ‘I bought a new car to look at my new tattoo.’  Then we have the ‘I’ve been a practitioner for X amount of years’ and they tend to mention this often which makes them feel it gives them dominance over the profession, that they know it all so please everyone stand up and clap.
They’re the ones that love the constant selfies and sharing really personal information that may or may not be true. They love the spotlight and will use anyone or anything to get it. They love to name drop and they have this air to them that you absolutely should be putting them on the pedestal because in their mind they are better than you. The more knowledge they accumulate, they more they expect this.
They love conversations to be about them, and them only and can get jealous really easily though they may not show it. They just may ignore you or down play your own achievements, or even pick at the faults of what you have achieved.
They get bored easy, and there’s always the next something to do which of course will be announced so they can get a standing ovation for it.
You are their supply of self importance and any need they want fulfilled.
They don’t apologise for anything because they don’t believe they have to. They usually have a really polished public appearance as well.

Observe communication. Is it warm? Does it have a disconnection feel to it where it lacks connection? Or does it lack boundaries. It’s usually one or the other or both.
Is there a harshness in their communication and demeanour?
Are they pushy, controlling and get angry when you do, believe of say something wrong that doesn’t justify that kind of response?
Do they talk themselves up a lot?
Whether online or in person, observe their moods and their openness or lack of.

Most importantly listen to how your body feels when you speak with them, whether in person or online.
The thing is, with narcissists they can put on this front that everything about what and who they are is exciting, and if you stand back and watch, most people will react in this way feeding their supply. Though the thing is, it’s not excitement you’re feeling. It’s adrenalin. Adrenalin from having your trauma wounds poked, then what I’ve observed is people want to part of their life or circle to feed what most people think is excitement but it isn’t. This want, is a want to be acknowledged from the trauma wounds that’s been poked, and the more they poke at it, you’ll find that you want their attention more and more. This is when you’ll see the empty and desperate compliments feeding the narcissist, and there you have it my loves, the toxic cycle goes around and around.

Narcissists are desperate to feel important. So is a person that’s had their trauma wounds poked, and are not aware of their wound triggers. So you see how unhealthy and concerning this is and I am certain you’ve witnessed this more than once.

So let’s throw in the traits of a malignant narcissist, who is highly manipulative. Their primary focus is to dominate and control others and will use aggression, deceit and will lie to get their way. They usually have this cruel streak and have no empathy or remorse when hurting others. Please remember many of these traits can overlap.

I’ve just outed a narcissist and watched her flounder around trying her best to cover herself. After purposely using the word gypsy to hurt myself and my daughter with no remorse knowing our ethnicity (gypsy is a slur word towards Romani people) I watched her first aggressively and with no empathy push the issue. The woman’s also pale so there’s privilege in this behaviour too, but narcissists believe they’re entitled to special treatment.
I watched from aggression, to panic after I made a video about it, and as a clinical psychologist pointed out her behaviour and she shut down her reviews on her page. After she watched the video, she reinstated everything to save face, but then went on to write about that she’s a narcissist slayer yet has never spoke about the issue which I have screenshots of, to going back and manipulating people with her personal issues so people can pity her, then back to selfies, smearing with bullshit on other racial issues yet no problem to rip down a race of people that is deeply oppressed to cover her arse. It’s all fuckery but only those that are self aware and actively working on healing themselves and their trauma wounds will see this.

The traits of a covert narcissist is more passive aggressive in nature, and many miss seeing they’ve been manipulated. Though in saying that, a lot if this can be missed because you may not be having a personal relationship with any of these people but I always say loves, if you walk away from any person feeling confused, doubtful of who you are, not feeling good about yourself, emotionally heavy and anxious, you’ve more than likely been manipulated. You may agree with them then and there, but that’s more out of a shock response because your trauma wound has been poked at and clearly you’ve experienced this before. So you may walk away feeling like ‘what the fuck just happened,’ a dazed and an emotionally heavy feeling. The grief will follow suit a little later because this is how the trauma wound of those that have been manipulated one too many times and this wound usually stems from their childhoods.
So you could be in session with covert narcissist or just in conversation with them, but you’ll know after you’ve walked away from one.

The last one is the inverted narcissist.
Now the inverted narcissist is a covert and vulnerable narcissist that actually needs to make connections with other narcissists to feel special. So you may see this in spiritual circles where there’s more than one leading a workshop or whatever, or just need to be seen together. These narcissists are codependent on other narcissists and usually have experienced severe childhood abandonment. Nevertheless, they have these traits along with the usual narcissistic traits and can pull on the opinions of other narcissists to shame you, and it becomes bullying in the sense that how you feel is wrong and isn’t important, and I know many many people have experienced this in spiritual circles.

Toxic traits in spiritual practitioners has a lot to do with shaming a person with how they feel and lack boundaries. They are passive aggressive and aggressive as well. Their communication isn’t clear, and they have trouble saying what they really mean, so their communication will always feel like there is an undertone to what they actually are saying, and you’ll feel this unease. It’s also a feeling like you owe them something for helping you. They emanate a poisonous feel and is always pulling people down, are highly aggressive, manipulative, but can also play the victim really well. You will know by how they make you feel. It’s challenging to be around these people for long lengths of time. The difference between toxic behaviour and a narcissist, is toxicity has troubled and wounded behavioural patterns that stem from childhood but can be healed, where as a narcissist is a personality disorder and is a mental illness. People can have narcissist traits and not be a narcissist also. Usually these traits tend to stand in certain situations because they believe a certain something they refuse to let go which points out the wound pretty clearly. It’s really important to know the difference so the term narcissist isn’t the next thing to smear a person with. It’s serious and should be spoke about seriously.

Before I end this, I need to make clear that narcissists are also highly intuitive. I don’t know why people think they are not because you need intuition to manipulate and read people very well to maintain a false image. Narcissists are usually created from deep traumas from childhood, so a need for high senses is where intuition is strengthened. So please keep this in mind. Mix it with knowledge from books, and it’s a pretty potent mix to have in alternative communities.
I hope this gives you some helpful knowledge because it is a huge problem everywhere not just in spiritual communities it’s just there are a lot of vulnerable people seeking help that can be manipulated too easy. Will be back soon for blog number two. Don’t forget to visit my offical website here –> https://snakeandwildroots.com.au
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The Fear and Clarity of Narcissistic Behaviour

Once their behaviour is revealed openly they will do the opposite to try and save face of what a lot of people already know and see. The most interesting of facts is they’re more worried about being seen as a narcissist than a racist because I’ve shared and will keep sharing gypsy is a racial slur.

For a word witch not only do they not know how to spell but also if language defines a culture than what does that say about you as a person because by fuck you’re not the only person that represents your culture, and thank fuck for that.

Here’s the video before the changes this person made below: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjyQvwFuwB4 then suddenly but with no surprise here is the new about with reviews switched right on (as explained in the video:

This person is suddenly a slayer of the superficial and my favourite narcisistic (their spelling) predators. For a ‘word witch’ whatever the fuck that is love, that’s not how you spell it. The masks and pretence is falling away, funny how this person has never spoken about this before? ….

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The Come Back and the Entitlement

In the last post I mentioned about the narcissist gathering, and how the need and will to gather those around them to stoke their ego hard enough to reassure them and their shitty behaviour is okay, and in this case it’s around racism and the word gypsy. Let me explain the behaviour, then I’ll go into it further with psychological facts to show you clearly what’s happening here.

After raising the topic on not using the word gypsy, particularly from a person who puts the image across of cultural acceptance and respect, the response we received from the narcissist at hand was for them to post a photo of themselves, say they’re not playing victim and yet they are with the public display (which comes to no surprise, classic narcissistic behaviour). Of course with no apology to the Romany people, that wasn’t expected but what was is the behaviour happening again which I will share more below. This person goes onto say that ‘we are doing nothing but selling more books for her.’ Racism and narcissism, classic behaviour thinking that doing it again will provoke an emotional response, which is what they want because their tunnel vision and belief they are entitled and how dare they be shown up for their shitty behaviour that they will never be responsible for. Sorry darlin, no emotional response here, you’re showing yourself up and each behaviour is confirming to me and the world the real you beneath all the glamour bullshit, so keep fucking yourself up nicely, we’re all sitting back with popcorn because it’s classic narcissistic behaviour.

Before I share a few psychological facts on narcissistic behaviour, let me add that an empathetic and compassionate cultured person will respond with exactly that, with empathy and compassion – not here, remember it’s a narcissistic world.

From psychology today:

One word that will help you understand the narcissist

To begin, the most helpful word in framing an understanding of the narcissist is “counterintuitive.” The most crucial point is that how the narcissist presents on the surface is entirely different from how the narcissist feels underneath. There are two “selfs” at work in the mind of the narcissist: their real self, and the fraudulent, fantasy self they try to sell to the public. Severe narcissists have a predatory, score-keeping approach to the social world around them. The narcissist’s daily life is spent fighting off potential threats to their ego and proving themselves as superior to everyone around them, and they have little peace of mind as they move through life.

In the mind of the narcissist, the social world includes two strict categories: winners and losers. There is no possible outcome they can conceive of in which everyone gets their needs met. There isn’t enough attention and praise for everyone to go around, so according to narcissistic logic, only a few lucky ones will be selected. When the narcissist feels most threatened, it is because someone has said or done something that makes the narcissist feel small, unnoticed, weak, or defective, and the narcissist cannot allow anyone or anything to make him feel like that under any circumstances. The narcissist’s thinking goes like this: Any threat to her or his temperamental ego must be identified and erased immediately. If the threat continues, it must be annihilated by any means necessary.

“Narcissistic entitlement refers to a belief that one’s importance, superiority, or uniqueness should result in getting special treatment and receiving more resources than others. For example, individuals high in narcissistic entitlement think that they should get more respect, more money, and more credit for doing the same work as everyone else. Narcissistic entitlement also includes a willingness to demand this special treatment or extra resources.”

So there you have it, just a little know how to see what’s happening here and of course what’s to come. The thing is, when you really understand how narcissistic behaviour works you can stand back and see it for what it is. It’s expected because it’s patterned behaviour and anyone that knows my work well knows that I work closely with patterned behaviour. So sorry bitch, your racist and expected self absorbed behaviour is nothin new here. Like I said, I’ll give you attention but not the kind you want. Your behaviour is disgusting.

Here again is a great piece of not using the word gypsy, written by a Roma herself: https://stopwhitewashing.tumblr.com/post/29107539178/im-sorry-but-no-you-cannot-never-will-you-be?fbclid=IwAR1p6bi1qmpe3c4wj854F9VBiJYgVJFl3pVvSe7GCs-y4dV4MxKH-wi9sxs

GYPSY IS A SLUR WORD, STOP USING IT.

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The Gathering

The gathering, as I call it when a narcissist is called out on their behaviour. They never apologise because they don’t believe there’s anything to apologise for.
Then they’ll manipulate by making it about them and all the while playing victim to what they have done. Gathering as many as they can to stroke that big ego of theirs so they can then believe they have the permission to continue with their behaviour, oh but not everyone sees it like that darlin hearts. People do see my loves even if they don’t say.
Classic narcissistic trait.
The ones that have been on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse knows this well.
And let’s remember the persona that so many believe in, and the so called charisma and the glamour bullshit they love to play out because and let’s use this in context of racism, especially when some like to see themselves as educated and more, which they are not and go on and on to accept all cultures because they believe they are connected to their own, and when the get called out for being culturally insensitive and using a slur word that Romany people are working so fucking hard for modern culture to stop playing up this fantasy image that isn’t real and is actually a derogatory term towards Romany people- we are doing everything we can to educate people to not use. Let’s remember now it’s a narcissist living in a narcissistic world so let’s excuse all of them while they rotate and rotate again in their shit taking as many people as they can with them…because who are they really without no one to say ‘there there, you are awesome don’t listen to sense and human decency keep being your selfish self.’
The unconscious following the twisted, pulling on wounding like it’s a lackey band and if you let them pull hard enough, you just may get the little attention you want from them but remember it’s not for you, it’s all for them.
Here’s an excellent post on not using the word gypsy written by a Romany. Read it through it’s not a long read: https://stopwhitewashing.tumblr.com/post/29107539178/im-sorry-but-no-you-cannot-never-will-you-be?fbclid=IwAR3gdNS3P5ZBNX9C0RlZOWYtNJ6paBzdoxVXlkI2tJGpFOAfFeEgxrJXyqg
Here’s another link for you all to read. Heart wrenching, fucking painful but the truth of what’s happening and how Roma people are treated in Europe right not which is has been for happening for decades: https://www.citywatchla.com/index.php/2016-01-01-13-17-00/important-reads/17858-insidious-discrimination-against-the-roma-is-europe-s-shame

Let me explain one more time and it won’t be the last time, Romany’s can claim the word gypsy and if that’s you my fellow Roma, sweet as but know our background and educate yourself my darlins because it’s not okay. If you want more information and sites where you can connect with other Roma’s on social media there is some excellent groups and pages that are supportive and helpful. Get in contact with me by clicking on the contact page of this site.
There’s no place for racism and bullshit, let’s end it together.
We see ya bitch.

Witchcraft & Narcissists

Narcissists. Narcissistic personality disorder to be clear. People throw around he or she is a narc not quite understanding that it goes beyond the usual selfishness. They are abusive, twisted and they’ll never change. They don’t change. There is a way to work a narcissist using witchcraft but it has to come from an experienced practitioner. This is not for anyone to throw something together because you can actually make things worse, and the traits of their personality grow to a point that it’s much more destructive than what it already is, that means hurting more people. You have to be ten steps ahead, you must always do a reading before any working and you must have clear sight. It has to be precise.

The thing is with narcissists, they have patterned behaviour, and if you’ve been unfortunate and have experienced it one or more times, then you know what I mean. They’re charming, manipulative, their compulsive liars, they know how to mask their behaviour well and so very convincing even if their behaviour is so very obvious. They live in another reality they believe is to be true and I’ve seen them convince people that black is white too many times.

I have seen inexperienced practitioners wanting revenge, throw a spell and of course it doesn’t work. You need to see what you’re doing and I’m going to explain how and why. First let’s look at a narcissist because they are more than what I’ve described above.

Narcissists needs to be in control because they have no conscious awareness or understanding of their emotional body. All they know is how they feel and if it feels uncomfortable, they need to control the people around them so they can feel in control of how they feel. If you challenge them, you’re fucked. If you confront them, you’re fucked. If call them out on their behaviour that’s when the shit show really starts. They’ll bad mouth you to anyone that will listen and make your life miserable with constant and never ending bullshit because they cannot accept responsibility of their own behaviour. They just can’t accept responsibility. So tackling it head on is no.

They’re also delusional. They have a fantasy in their head and they believe in it so much because without it they couldn’t survive. Their survival is dependent on leeching and breaking people because what they’re taking is what they don’t feel or have inside. Even though they are highly sensitive, and their sensitivity comes from not having a solid wholesome connection to their humanity. They live a whole other reality to yours and mine, and it isn’t one that a healthy functioning person can understand because it’s a personality disorder. It can’t be changed and if you were to throw a hex or revenge working, it may work but only for a short time because with a functioning person they feel the feelings and emotions, they feel guilt and can reflect on their behaviour, a narcissist doesn’t.

So what will happen they’ll do what they usually do and that is leech onto the next person because they need that source to survive. And let’s not forget rage. The constant rage and this hatred towards a person or people they feel have wronged them and that would be two things, asking them to take responsibility for their behaviour and smashing down their delusion of what they think is real.

Their energy is manipulative and changes when they stew on whatever it is you have not done to fulfil what they need from you. You can’t change them and you can’t really teach them a lesson because they don’t take responsibility.

So playing fire with fire here isn’t going to work because their fire will always burn down whatever it is you throw at them because they don’t give a shit about hurting people. They’ll destroy anyone in their way. So what do you do and do you have the energy to do it?

Well, that’s different and personal for each person and depends on how patient you are.

First you need clear sight and only an experienced practitioner will be able to do it, because to get to the target within a person so the magic works, you have to be able to see with clear precision, and if you know how to heal and get to the core of a wound then you can do this. If you know how to heal, which I do then you know how to hex. Same way in, different intention. The energy threads of a person looks like veins and they’re all connected and you have to travel and work through certain threads to get to the soft points of where you can work and manipulate.

And as I shared, it’s not fighting fire with fire, it’s putting out those fucking flames completely. So you work on cooling their spirit. Not too much at a time and never excessively. Water is a base to use but you also need oils because it’s thicker and denser and needed for this kind of personality. What you want to do is quieten their spirit slowly putting the flames out on the ‘heat’ of their personality. Eventually they won’t have as much energy and they’ll slowly turn inward. What you’re doing here is they will eventually get lost in their own poison, and will get sick and health problems. This is witchcraft darlins, you do what you need to do to get shit done.

This kind of working takes time and patience, but let me tell you, it works.

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